went for the 1st session of occupational therapy with bry. today is just the inital assessment and to find out more details. the therapist spoke to me while bry played in a gym rm, he had fun and was amazed at the things there. we spoke about his behaviour at home, my concerns, feedbacks from school, behaviour at school etc. she then assessed bry writing skill, mayb a better word will be study skills, and commented he has good handwriting and able to concentrate on the given tasks.
i was surprised that he was able to draw lines using ruler (vertically but not horizonally) as i never ask him to do so at home and wasn't too sure if he does it in school. another surprising task was the use of scissors, i told the therapist the father refused to let him use scissors as bry may not follow instructions and may hurt himself. the therapist mentioned that drawing lines and use of scissors are essential skills for primary school and encourage me to let him practice at home.
i must state that i am not treating these sessions (have another one next monday) as quick fix to bry behaviour, nor am i using them as bashing sessions. the therapist did ask me some questions and i decided to be truthful regarding how the father (i always refer as the father to her) has different views with handling bry, even brought up the example about prof koh recommendation to sit bry on the chair instead of the hi-chair during meals and how the father response (summarised verison) was since dr feel bry is grown up then bry can go out and work. i think there is nothing to be ashamed of since i am not making things up but just being truthful.
homework of the week, she asked me to pick a problematic behaviour that i would like bry to change and she will help me. her initial diagnosis (do you call that or assessment) is that bry is not hyperactive or attention deficient, bry is relative bright and it is common for brighter child to suss (her words) out which individuals are push over (as in the case with his chinese teacher) or find loopholes to make use.
i am glad that bry is not hyperactive and hopefully with the help of these sessions and psycholoist, his behaviour will be better managed.
probably not a good place to mention but just briefly, had another arguement with the father over the kids's violent playing (re-enactment) of the cartoon characters. they were getting into an arguement and bry was getting upset and repeatedly told dom to stop talking. dom was saying anything to him but kept on his monologue, to the extend that bry was going to start crying. i had made my stand very clear regarding this issue, my decision was not for them to play/re-enact the cartoon characters and no more watching the show. i refused to step in to defuse the situation and carried on messaging my fren. the father exploded and kinda of trashed the kids' lego toys, shouting at them and me, saying how i am controling blab blab. i told him my decision regarding this issue and his reply was dom can watch but dun play with bry.
wat can i say. i have a bad temper but i will not harm kids especially i see something being a negative influence to them. his response was separate, separate and separate.